I've got a couple thoughts on the topic of Love Tanks! Love Tanks are sources of love that we develop or discover. They can be people or activities - they are finite and can be filled and emptied. Giving love to others is the way that we empty our tank. Other people's Love Tanks empty as we connect with them and draw love from them. When we connect with someone who's tank is full we feel great being with them and are reluctant to disconnect from them. When we connect with someone who's tank is getting empty, and ours is not full, we will feel mixed feelings and wonder why we are feeling this way - often blaming them. When we connect to someone with an empty tank and our tank is sufficient we feel ok…but if their tank is empty and our tank is low we feel drained in the relationship and often wish we could just get away. People with empty Love Tanks are looking to get refilled - but we don't often know the state of a person's Love Tank until we connect.
Men have a keen sense of knowing how to respond to various levels in Love Tanks. I believe this stems from young boys being socialized to leave peers alone who are upset. When people's Love Tanks are low (they are feeling bad) men automatically unplug and seek a new source that is fuller. Women, on the other hand, tend to stay connected to people who not only are incapable of meeting her needs, but are drawing her down - emotionally. Again, I believe, this is the result of her socialization. Female children learn to move in and comfort those in distress - and they often continue this behavior into adulthood. Staying connected to someone who's Love Tank is empty can be a draining activity.