"Relighting Your Man's Fire"
Most men are not lazy. If they were then it is unlikely that women would ever marry them. Women do not treasure lazy men. Yet something happens to men that causes courtship behaviors to give way to only occasional interest or even apparent indifference toward their wives. I've got a couple thoughts on the topic of relighting your man's fire when he seems not to even notice you.
When a man begins to court he is driven by his desire to be close and his fear of losing you to someone else. His courtship behaviors include attention, good hygiene, consideration, romance - remarkable tools that every man has - but uses only in the most dire of circumstances. Once a man marries his desire is diminished gradually but his fear of losing you to someone else vanishes immediately when both of you say “I do”. A man does not feel driven to work for something he already has so his remarkable tools get put away and he uses tools that meet other needs for him. This lack of being sought after can leave a woman feeling unloved, unappreciated, and unimportant. She sometimes tries to get his attention by asking him to do jobs around the house. Not sensing what she is trying to do, and not interested in doing more than he has to - he is often not very cooperative or prompt - compounding her feelings of not being important to him. I have found something that works well with men and usually produces the result of him paying attention to her again. It is a woman's predictability that gives a man a sense of security. Even her unhappiness and complaining can become predictable so he does not even see these as signs of danger to his world. But let a woman become less predictable, let her surprise him once in a while and he begins to think that perhaps he does not know her as well as he thought - that he's not as secure as he should be . I encourage women to change things about themselves that might get his attention: hair color, clothing, hair style. Got to a movie by yourself, take an interest in cooking German food. Do things you haven't done before - it will be fun for you and unsettling for him. If you do it right -he'll pull out his remarkable tools again. This is a good time to suggest marital therapy…while you've got his attention!