"How To Edit Yourself As You Talk"

I recently appeared on the Paula Sands Live television talk show and at the end of our discussion - and off camera - Paula said something that really caught my attention. She said that she noticed that I had the ability to edit myself as I spoke. “Edit myself!” - what an interesting concept. I've never heard the word “edit” applied to conversation - but I love the image that it evokes! Let me share a couple thoughts on how leaning to “edit yourself” might well be the best relationship skill you develop for 2004.

First of all let's examine the word “edit”. The Miriam Webster dictionary defines edit as: “to revise, assemble, or prepare for publication or release (as a motion picture)”. Let me deal with these aspects of editing one at a time. First of all - to assemble. So many of us speak without having a very clear idea of what we are going to say. We hope that what comes out of our mouth will be clear and effective - but often it's not because we didn't assemble information ahead of time. The next aspect of editing is to prepare for publication or release (as a motion picture). The person who edits a book or movie takes all the information and images that the author or producer supplies and then begins to remove confusing, unnecessary, redundant or repetitious material so that the finished product makes sense to the person who's experiencing it. The next feature of editing is revision. The goal of revision is to correct or improve what we think is our final product so that we move from “good enough” to “better".
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